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Dads Can Change Diapers Too, Or How To Better Share The Load At Home
Six things I’ve learned to help create and keep a happy marriage
I have likely changed more diapers than my wife. This is due to the fact that I am a stay-at-home dad. I spent countless hours when my kids were infants sitting on the couch and feeding them before changing their diapers and putting them down for naps. Today, I still change pull-ups and my youngest’s diapers. Dads are more than capable of changing diapers. But many people see men caring for kids and treat them like a bear walking on two legs.
There is a bigotry of low expectations that surrounds fathers.
One of the things that puts undue strain on relationships is a perceived imbalance in household duties. Many women feel as though they carry an unfair load when it comes to child rearing and housekeeping. Meanwhile, men often feel as though their hours of work and thousands of dollars of income go unnoticed and unappreciated. These perceptions of imbalance and ungratefulness breed resentment, and resentment breeds pain, and this pain is enough to fester and rot marriages from the inside.
In order to head off some of this imbalance, couples should strive to share the workload more equally. Equal distribution of work can do a lot to strengthen a…